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Women Who 'Dated' Older Men As Teenagers And Realized They Were Actually Predators Are Sharing Their Stories, And They Did Not Hold Back. “Fast-forward to a few weeks later, his wife, who I never knew about, contacted me and told me to leave her husband alone. I was mortified.
He tried to mess around with me some more, but him being married seemed like the icing on the this is messed up cake. Again, guys at my school saw me as the quiet nerd, so if you don’t think your quiet, studious daughter could fall prey to something like this, think again.” —Anonymous, Pennsylvania. 2. “When I was 15, I had a huge crush on a staff member at my Christian summer camp. He was seven years older than me and had just graduated college. When I was 17, he convinced me to attend this college so we could finally be together — but also told me not to talk about him because others wouldn’t understand. When I started college, he was still on staff and would avoid me in person. My sophomore year, when I was 20 and he 27, he asked me out, but we still had to keep it secret since he was concerned about people asking questions. This continued until the end of my junior year when a professor saw us together a few towns over. I got called to the Dean’s office and thought I was in trouble, but they told me that he was fired and asked that I not speak about him to anyone because it would jeopardize my and the school’s reputation.” “We would talk on Instagram when it wasn’t summer and I wasn’t at camp. He made me feel so special. I didn’t even apply anywhere else for college. At college, he said there was an unspoken rule that staff don’t date freshmen. I believed him and waited on him. Advertisement. Advertisement. Advertisement. Advertisement. I would do anything just to be with him, so I did what he said and never told my friends or anyone else that I was meeting him. I was 21 and he was 28 when the professor spotted us. At that point, he was promising we’d get married when I was done with school. I was broken-hearted. I’d spent so many years waiting on this guy and doing everything he said — missing out on normal experiences for someone my age all for me to have to act like it never happened. That was almost 10 years ago, and it has affected my dating life in major ways. It’s a big reason why I completely reject the church now.” —emileem3. 3. “When I was in high school, senior boys hit on freshman girls and kept in touch with us after they graduated — so they’d be in their early twenties flirting with high school girls over AIM. I remember thinking I was ‘so cool’ because two of the cutest former seniors regularly talked to me and had taken me on dates. When one of them took me to a concert, my cousin — who was the same age as them — saw me and was like, ‘Why are you with him here?! He is too old for you!’ At the time, I thought he was being overprotective.” “Looking back now, that is SO creepy. My cousin had every right to be worried. Why could they not take college-aged girls on dates? Moreover, a lot of the boys in my class did the same to freshman girls when we were seniors. It seems like they learned from the men before them. So sad.” Advertisement. Advertisement. Advertisement. Advertisement. —Anonymous, Massachusetts. 4. “I was 18, a freshman in college, and he was 36. I thought I was so cool for having an older boyfriend. What I realize now, at 34, is that I wasn’t cool, he was just creepy. He would introduce me to his friends as his 18-year-old girlfriend. Every time, he would mention my age.” “Neither he nor any of his friends had anything in common with me. I felt so insecure because they were actual adults, and I wasn’t even old enough to go to a bar.” —lindsayb4bf85de3d. 5. “I was 15 and fond of my high school teacher who was 45 at the time. I told him I really liked the way he taught his class. Then, he called me to a private place, hugged me, and, in my ear, told me that he’d had dirty dreams about me. It made me feel special. Long story short, I ended up going to his place to have oral sex. I found out later that he had done this same thing with other girls from school. It took me 15 years to understand that he was a predator.” “We saw each other for six months, and I eventually learned that he was married and had a kid my age.” —marthamtzmedina. 6. “When I was 15, the 28-year-old uncle of my nephew (on his father’s side) was sweet and cordial with me. One day, I was asked to help him carry bags downstairs, where he kissed me. I was shocked and had no idea he liked me, but I thought that I must be really attractive to grab the attention of an older man. From then on, he would pick me up from school, take me to his place, and try his best to initiate sex. Our conversations were awkward as we had nothing in common, but I kept telling myself ‘opposites attract.’ I told him I was a virgin and scared because it was intimidating to be with someone older and experienced. He kept trying until one day, I yelled, ‘No, stop, I don’t want to,’ as he was pulling down my pants, while I held on to the buckle to keep him from taking them off. He immediately got upset and said, ‘Who else are you going to lose your virginity to? Someone your age that doesn’t know what they are doing?’” “Immediately, I felt uncomfortable and saw that this 28-year-old man was just acting on a sick fantasy to be with someone young and a virgin, and that was all that mattered to him. His pressuring me to have relations felt like rape. I kept going back and forth in my mind over whether I should have, or whether I did the right thing by cutting all contact — which was quite hard since he was my nephew’s uncle. Advertisement. Advertisement. Advertisement. Advertisement. I have a daughter now, and I want to teach her that this is not OK, nor is it a sort of badge of womanhood to grab the attention of a man in your teenage years.” —Anonymous, Massachusetts. 7. “Fifteen years ago, I was legally an adult but still a teen. I dated my recently divorced boss who was 24 years older than me. I was looking for a casual, good time, and we both like to travel, so it was fun. It went over my head that he was too old for me because, in most ways, he was closer to my maturity level than others his age. After a couple of months, I realized he had a pretty significant drinking problem and tried to get out, but, shocker, my job became threatened. He became extremely emotionally and psychologically abusive, then sexually abusive. I ended up seeing a psychiatrist and dropping out of school because of my mental state. To get away from him, I took an international internship, which my work approved. However, he disclosed our relationship out of spite, and I was fired. He received no consequences and dated another employee who was younger than me.” “There were no policies around dating at my work. Ultimately, I ended up staying overseas for nearly a decade. He still drunk-dials me once a year and leaves a voicemail about how delightful he found the times he sexually assaulted me. (He’s blocked, and, yes, I’ve changed numbers, but that piece of s#$% is crafty.) At the time, the age difference didn’t seem like a big deal. But now that I’m older, I look back and think, ‘What kind of degenerate, emotionally stunted creep. ’ Even if it’s legal, it is NOT OK!” —Anonymous, California. 8. “I started dating a 26-year-old man who had previously dated two of my high school friends when I had just started my senior year of high school. I was 17, which we both knew was the age of consent in Missouri. We got married when I was 21. Now I’m in my thirties, in the middle of a horrible, high-conflict divorce — after having children with him and realizing he emotionally and sexually abused me for half my life.
