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Do’s and Don’ts When Dating a Vietnamese Woman. As a foreigner dating Vietnamese women, often times misunderstandings can occur.
I mean it’s bound to happen right? You both grew up in two completely different worlds, with completely different social and cultural norms. But if your looking forward to having any type of relationship success when dating a Vietnamese woman, then there are some very important do’s and don’ts that you need to consider. On today’s article, I’m going to be going over a list of do’s and don’ts when dating a Vietnamese woman that will help you nip any drama in the bud and ensure your relationship remains smooth sailing. Do’s. Free Cheat Sheet: Download a free 12-step cheat sheet summary that reveals how to easily date Vietnamese women. Try to Learn Vietnamese. Unless your dating a Vietnamese girl that speaks impeccable English, communication issues is always going to be a problem down the road. Even with my current girlfriend right now, we occasionally run into misunderstandings because I’m unable to understand her sometimes when she speaks Vietnamese to me. Not only will learning Vietnamese allow you to better communicate with her, it shows her that you respect and value her culture in your relationship. You’ll be able to have deeper conversations with her and connect on a completely different level with her. Think about what type of relationship your gonna to be having with someone if you can only convey basic communication equivalent to that of a 5 year old? Using hand gestures and facial expression to convey meaning only gets you so far. Now you don’t need to be fluent in her native tongue, however being able to carry a basic conversation with her asking about her day and the things she likes goes a long way. Also if you do decide to pursue things further down the line, communicating with her family wins you big brownie points as well. As a bonus in case she or anyone else talks shit about you, you can understand it and deal with it accordingly. The look of shock on people’s faces when they realize I can understand what they are saying to me is priceless! I had a situation where I was at a bubble tea shop. There were several girls that were working the counter. Initially I didn’t pick up what they were saying because they spoke really quickly so I reverted to English. A few of the girls had taken a liking to me, especially one in particular. She went back to her coworkers and then said I was “đẹp trai” meaning handsome with her coworkers. Later when my drink was ready, I switched back to Vietnamese and asked her what time do they usually close at. She was in utter shock that I spoke Vietnamese and her face soon turned red. Here is a language book called Vietnamese for Beginners that I highly recommend for studying Vietnamese. It’s great for self-study and is easy to follow along. Try to Learn About Her Culture. If your looking to get far with the ladies here in Vietnam, its a wise move to try and learn about Vietnamese culture. Now I’m not saying that you need to develop a love for bún mắm or bún đậu mắm tôm, two really foul smelling Vietnamese dishes made with either fermented fish or shrimp that a lot of Vietnamese go gaga for. But you should know certain rules such as using two hands when giving something to someone older then you or waiting for people older than you to eat before eating. This will help alleviate some of the social stigma associated with dating a foreigner and help her parents come to terms in accepting you into the family. You did know that family is really important In Vietnamese culture right? In case you didn’t, here’s an article that I wrote on Vietnamese dating culture. Click here to read it. Here’s a classic example of an idiot that lacks any cultural understanding of his girlfriend’s culture. I have seen and met plenty of foreigners who have been living here in Vietnam for well over a year now, yet haven’t even made an effort to learn the simplest of Vietnamese phrases to communicate with the locals nor taken the time to learn about the local customs. They then go on a rant complaining about how much they hate it here, and how everyone is always staring at them and trying to rip them off. Be a Gentlemen. Vietnamese girls have developed this romanticized view of dating through the various movies and tv shows they have consumed. There’s a reason why those Korean dramas are big hit here. A lot of the younger girls now think most Korean guys are k drama stars, only to be sadly disappointed later on. Little gestures like opening the door for her, helping her move her motorbike , or cooking her dinner goes a long way towards impressing her. Women’s day is celebrated over here in Vietnam, where the men are expected to give flowers to their lady. Give her a boutique of flowers and you’ll melt her heart. Fail to do so, and prepare to face the wrath of a woman scorned. Male chivalry is still very much appreciated here with Vietnamese girls. Pay for her on the First Few Dates. Now I’m not asking you to pay for her for an eternity, in fact any girl that expects you to pony up each time is not a ripe candidate to have a long term relationship with. However, on the first few dates, your expected to pay for the drinks, food, and any other recreational activities that you have planned for the evening. If she’s a good sport, she may offer to pay for some of it, but don’t expect it. When your dating traditional feminine Vietnamese girls, the man is expected to pay. It’s their way of showing the girl that they can provide for her. If you want to split the bill with your date, go date a western woman then. Continue to Flirt with Her After Courting Her. Courtship doesn’t end after you’ve slept with her. She will still expect you to continue to flirt and seduce her, the only difference is, her requirements are way more relaxed now that you two have become lovers. A common complaint by women is that men change and stop doing the things they used to do to court them. Go on reddit or quora and you will find hundreds of threads just like this: Once you stop doing these things that got you the girl, she will start complaining about it and start causing all sorts of drama. Eventually if your still not meeting her needs, such as giving her attention, she will find someone else who will. It doesn’t matter how much attention and affection you gave her in the past, nor how many mountains you had to climb to be with her, what matters most to her is how she feels right now about your relationship. This article is the property of Vietkieudating. Now you may be thinking that’s quite selfish and whatnot, but they don’t care. They want to feel loved right now and you better provide it. Let Her Do Most of The Chasing. Although girls love it when guys shower them with free attention, they aren’t necessarily attracted to the guy because he ain’t a challenge to her. If she can easily win you over, then in her mind, you aren’t as valuable as she thinks you are. The harder you are to obtain while still remaining obtainable for her, the more she will appreciate having you. Most guys think that by chasing after the girl and needlessly texting and calling them all the time that eventually the girl will realize how much of a great guy he is. Unbeknownst to him, this actually turns girls off. They will rationalize that he isn’t such a great catch after all if he is always available. Let her call and text you more than you call and text her. It establishes who has control of the relationship. If she starts to complain that your not doing it enough, then your on the right track. Just increase it a little bit more and then maintain it. A good rule of thumb is to text her 2 times out of 3 for every 3 texts or calls she initiates. This will allow you to maintain control of the relationship. Don’ts. Give Her Money. Lots of foreign men are under the illusion that their “girlfriend” needs saving because she is so poor and lives in a third world country where they can’t even have clean water to drink.
