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True Story: I’m 10 Years Older Than My Husband. What’s it like to be 10 years older than your husband? Awesome?
Weird? Are you exhausted by never-ending Cougar jokes? Today, Melissa shares her story. Tell us a bit about yourself! I’m Melissa. I’m a former high school English and AVID teacher born and raised in Sacramento, California. In 2011, I’d been teaching for nearly a decade and was looking for out-of-the-box ways to raise money for college scholarships for my students. I started selling the jewelry I was making—chunky wire-wrapped rings with encouraging, affirming notes to accompany them. This idea grew into Compliment. In 2013, I left the classroom to pursue this business full-time—sending tens of thousands of “gifts to uplift” to women all over the world, while continuing to raise tens of thousands of dollars for under-served girls in my community. I’m 38 years old and for fun, I like to sleep (I have an almost one-year-old and am due with my second baby in about 8 weeks). What’s your husband like? My husband Nick is not your average human. Even his family says that when he was a kid, he was always known as the “old soul.” His grandma tells me a story about how when he was around seven years old, the family was watching a sports game on TV. When the game was over, everyone in the room was debriefing what happened during and Nick chimed in with stats and in-depth knowledge about the players the adults were discussing. They asked him how he knew, and he said he’d been reading the ticker at the bottom of the screen during the game. That’s so indicative about the kind of person Nick is—he’s hyper-aware and observant, and really quick-witted. He’s thorough and thoughtful and loves people. No one ever guesses he’s 28. He is a meditation coach and a Community Outreach Manager for a local Urban Farm. He is very self-assured. He comes from an awesome, big, loving family, which I think has given him a sense of inner confidence. He’s very ok in his skin. He worries very little, if at all, what others think of him—and not in a overcompensating arrogant way. He’s sure of his values and how he wants to live his life. He’s very well-liked and is a genuinely good person. That’s what I love most about him. His goodness. Growing up, did you have any specific ideas about what marriage would look like for you? Yes, I definitely thought about marriage. My parents got married at 20 and 21. All my aunts and uncles were married by, like 23, so I just thought that’s when people got married. I had a boyfriend all through high school and college, and I suppose I assumed we’d just get married young and start having kids right away like everyone in my family. That didn’t happen. But, kind of close. I got married at 25 to a guy who I actually knew from high school, though we didn’t date until after college. We dated for three years and were married for seven. He was a teacher at the same school I was—the same school we graduated from when we were kids. And then, one ordinary Monday night after I’d cleaned the dinner dishes, he told me he didn’t want to be married anymore and that he was selling our house and I should find another place to live. Our relationship was far from good, but (and I know this sounds crazy) but I didn’t really realize it until I was out of it. I just kind of wrote off our problems (which were massive in hindsight) to “all marriages go through rough spots,” or “all couples argue.” I never in a million years thought I’d ever get divorced. But there I was—32 years old. Divorced. It happened really fast and was not amicable at all. But now, having gotten to the other side, I see that period of my life as the greatest gift. At the risk of sounding trite, it led me down a very unanticipated path and to my soul’s true mate. How did you meet your husband? Nick and I were friends for 2 years prior to my divorce and another year before he ever asked me out. I met him when he applied to be a tutor for the program I was teaching. He was in college and was considering getting his teaching credential. So he was sort of like my assistant or my student teacher. During the group interview when I was hiring our new crop of tutors, I asked everyone around the table what they saw for themselves in the future. All the interviewees mentioned things like finishing their degrees in order to attain their career aspirations. When the question got around to Nick, he said, “I’m still not sure what career I want, but my biggest goal is to be a great husband and father.” I remember it so clearly. I rolled my eyes and scoffed and thought, “Come on, dude. You’re laying it on so thick in front of these cute girls who are interviewing. Take it down a notch.” ( What’s so funny, is that now that I actually know him, he wasn’t exaggerating or flirting in the least. His life ambition is to be of service to the people he loves. That includes being the best husband and father, and son, grandson, cousin, friend. He meant it.) The rest of his interview was good and I ended up hiring him. Over the next two years, as we worked together, I got to know him better and found that he was super smart and funny and really cared about the students he worked with. Our whole team loved working with him. He and two of the other tutors became part of our teaching team. We were all great friends and worked together to get the best from our students. I respected Nick for how seriously he took his job as a role model for our students.
My boyfriend is 10 years younger than me
My boyfriend is 10 years older than me
