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Sometimes, I feel like his opinions are 'outdated,' but it's because he grew up in a different time than me, so I have learned to be more understanding of where he is coming from because things changed A LOT between his childhood/teen years and mine." by Devin Herenda. If you're in an age-gap relationship, there can be certain ways in which you and your partner don't exactly see things eye to eye. Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF.

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20th Century Fox Television / Via giphy.com. We recently asked folks from the BuzzFeed Community who are in relationships with large age disparities to share the biggest difference they experience with their partner. Here are some comments they submitted: 1. "I’m no longer with him, but I was in an age-gap relationship when I was 21 (female), and he was 52 (male). We lasted around a year and a half. The biggest difference for me was actually the opposite of what you’d expect. Everyone talks about how large age gaps don’t work because you’re both in such different places, the older one is mature, ready to buy the big house and invest, career-driven and enjoying success. The younger is immature, spontaneous, doesn’t want to keep their feet on the ground. In my case, I felt like I was just getting started, and he’d given up. I was career-driven, I was chasing success, I was careful about things. He’d already done all that, and he was happy to just…chill." "He wanted to go out more and saw no real need to move to somewhere with better prospects, to learn, to progress. And that’s fine! He didn’t need to progress anymore — he’d done that. But I still had so much to do, and it made it difficult to stay on the same wavelength. Ultimately, I think he’d have followed me and been there to support me, but we had other issues, and it ended." –Anonymous, 22, UK. Zgel / Getty Images/iStockphoto. 2. "I met my now-husband when I was barely 21 (I had lied about my age on Bumble, but we didn't meet until a month after I turned 21). He's almost nine years older than me and had lived three lifetimes before me, including being a military brat, going to college, being an MMA fighter, and just living on his own. I met him when he had a very successful, established job and had already done everything I was about to do way before me. I would say the biggest difference, besides him mentioning a movie he saw as a kid when I wasn't even born, is he partied and went clubbing and bar hopping for years before he met me, but by the time I met him, he was already over it and in a new stage of life. While I don't feel like I missed out because I met him at the 'perfect' time, I do feel like I don't have any 'cool' stories to tell our kid." —Natalie, 25, Arizona. 3. "I am 61, and my boyfriend is 47. We have been together for 15 years, and it has been awesome, although his family has never approved. The biggest difference that I've noticed lately is I'm ready to think about retirement and moving to the next phase of life, and he is still in his prime earning years." —Anonymous, 61, Maryland. Monkey Business Images / Getty Images. 4. "He (40-year-old male) doesn’t at all understand that sexuality and gender can be fluid concepts. Not in a mean or rude way, he just…doesn’t understand, no matter how I try to explain it." —Anonymous, 29, Vermont. 5. "Shows/movies/music from our childhoods/teenage years. With a 16-year age gap, he hasn't seen the best of the best, e.g., Mean Girls , Disney classics, Rugrats , Bring It On . also music in general, everything I listened to in high school and middle school — he is remembering club days in Vegas." —Anonymous, 30, CO. Cbs Photo Archive / CBS via Getty Images. 6. "He (15 years younger) is much more traditional and conservative than I am. He insists on antiquated gender roles — the man works in the yard, the woman works in the house. I thought someone younger would be more flexible, but that's not the case." —Anonymous, 75, Texas. 7. "With our 11-year age gap, my husband has already retired. I've got to work for another seven years for Social Security, Medicare, my employment retirement. We didn't think of that when we married 25 years ago. He's motor-homing, and I'm still in the office. ugh." —Candee Cain, 60, Santa Barbara, CA. Stígur Már Karlsson / Getty Images. 8. "My girlfriend of 1 and a half years is 11 years younger. The biggest difference is our mindset and our overall view on the world and politics, and even social situations. Things that I have grown out of or moved past, she still engages in — like clubs, bars, or going out. I also have more of a middling view on certain topics, as I think being 'wise' is seeing both sides of an issue, while she is decidedly much more one-sided in her very strong opinions on certain issues. I will say, she has opened up my eyes on being pro-choice. I used to ignorantly think that many women who have had an abortion did so with a certain 'blasé' attitude about it. She made me realize that most times, it is because they have to do it, lest they put their health at risk. And she's also made me realize that my own bodily autonomy is very important, so why would I expect it to be okay for 'old, white men' to tell ANY woman what to do with theirs?" 9. "My husband is 15 years older and uses words or phrases that I've never even heard out of my parents or grandparents. In all fairness, he's well-read and has a big vocabulary. When I look up the meaning, I always find that he used the word/phrase correctly." —Jaclyn S., 40, Sacramento, CA. The Good Brigade / Getty Images. 10. "Sex life. Threesomes are requested, anal sex, sexual desires that are spontaneous. There is a 15-year difference between us, sometimes causing heads to clash because we are from different generations." —Anonymous, 25, New York. 11. "My husband is 12 years older than me, I am in my mid-30s, and he is pushing 50. The biggest differences I notice are when it comes to our opinions on certain things, sometimes, I feel like his opinions are 'outdated,' but it's because he grew up in a different time than me, so I have learned to be more understanding of where he is coming from because things changed A LOT between his childhood/teen years and mine." Tim Robberts / Getty Images. 12. "My husband is eight years older than me, which isn’t significant, but it seemed so when we met. He was 30, and I was 22, but we happened to be in the same stages and phases in life despite that age difference. He was finally ready to settle down, and I was once I found the right person. It’s been over 20 years now, and the only problem with our age difference is when he talks about things he did when he was young, and we realize I was an infant, or in kindergarten, or in middle school. It’s weird but also a little silly. And of course, when I talk about being a kid, and he was basically an adult already." "Now that our kids are all older, he’s getting ready to retire, and we’re really looking forward to him living a long, full, young retirement — a whole new life together! He has some health issues now that he’s in his 50s, and I’ve been a stay-at-home mom due to a lifetime of chronic illness and ongoing health issues myself, but we’re taking care of each other now and learning to navigate this next phase. We’ve had a very fulfilling lifetime together so far and still have so much time left. I love our age difference.

My boyfriend is 10 years older