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Here',s how to tell if the person you',re dating is eager to get you to commit and what to do if you',re ready... or not. Signs the Person You Are Dating Wants to Get Married.
Marni Feuerman is a psychotherapist in private practice who has been helping couples with marital issues for more than 27 years. Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by mental health professionals. Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. Carly Snyder, MD is a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist who combines traditional psychiatry with integrative medicine-based treatments. Delmaine Donson / Getty Images. During the dating phase of a relationship, we get to see all aspects of our partner's personality. One of the things we'll notice is how eager our partner is to get married. For those of us who are not ready to get married or make a long-term commitment, this eagerness may be a turn-off. Though, if we're looking for a lifelong mate, a high interest in marriage could be encouraging. When it comes to dating and relationships, everyone has different expectations. Some people want to see where the relationship goes, while others enter a relationship with the sole purpose of making a trip to the altar. Others may have no intention of ever getting married. No matter where you fall on the spectrum, it's important to be upfront and honest about your intentions, especially if your partner shows signs of wanting to get married and you have no desire ever to tie the knot. Regardless of your intentions, marriage is not something to rush into. Always proceed with caution when the person you're dating is pressuring you to get married before you're ready. Signs Your Partner Wants to Get Married. Sometimes it is obvious when a partner is eager to get married. They talk about your future together as a couple openly and honestly. They set deadlines and are direct about their expectations. But other times, this eagerness is less evident. And if you are unable to connect the dots, missing the clues can lead to heartache for both partners. Here are some signs your partner probably has marriage on their mind. They Talk About Their Parents' Happy Marriage. When partners frequently bring up their parents' happy marriage and mention how they were already married by this age, you might be dealing with someone who is overly eager to get married or, at the very least, worried about the fact that they are not married yet. Having parents who model happy, satisfied marriages can help bolster the desire to marry as an adult. Evidence suggests that people raised by happily married parents tend to have a more positive view of marriage and commitment. Pay attention to how they talk about their parents’ relationship, and other successful married couples in their lives. If they are surrounded by other happily married people they likely also aim to reach this benchmark for themselves. When someone wants to get married sooner rather than later, they may constantly talk about all of the happily married couples they know and how they want that too. When these hints are dropped, it is best to have a straightforward conversation about your marriage goals. They Are Planning Your Life Together. If your partner has marriage on their mind, they mind spend time planning your life together—including the home they hope to eventually share. If you and your partner are not living together, but you frequently browse furniture and home decor stores, one of two things could be taking place. First, your partner may just really enjoy decorating and truly have no ulterior motives. Or, the furniture store trips could be a subtle way of getting you to think about making a home together, especially if your partner asks you which items you prefer. When these trips happen a lot, instead of doing other fun things together, this could be your partner's way of hinting at marriage. Rather than making assumptions, ask your partner why they enjoy this type of shopping. They've Been Engaged Before. If your partner has been engaged at least once but has never made it to the altar, they may like the idea of marriage and engagement and just be afraid of commitment. Or your partner could have realized that the person they were engaged to was not a good fit. If they have been engaged before, they likely are marriage-oriented and hopefully have learned from their past experience," says Romanoff. "If they were previously engaged—some part of them did envision marriage in their future—and while you might not know why it didn’t work out, you can be certain that they did see a future in which they did make this commitment." If your partner has had a string of engagements, this is a red flag. Either your partner has a habit of pressuring others to get married before they are ready, or your partner is not ready for marriage either. Ask about the previous engagements to determine what went wrong and why your partner never married. They Want Unprotected Sex. People who are in long-term relationships may be more likely to skip birth control, especially if the relationship is committed and monogamous. However, this is not a step you should take lightly. Research suggests that couples in longer romantic relationships are less likely to use condoms because they trust their partners more. Some participants in the study suggested that unprotected sex symbolized greater commitment. For instance, your partner may welcome an unexpected pregnancy and see it as a path to marriage. If you are not ready for a baby or marriage, use contraception every time. Pregnancy requires discussion and should not be a spur-of-the-moment decision. If your partner is pressuring you to skip protection, it is time for a serious discussion about what this might mean in terms of your relationship and future plans. They Talk About Their Wedding Plans. If your partner already knows where the wedding venue should be and what they plan to wear, then they are looking to get married at some point and have given it a lot of thought. Plenty of people daydream about their future wedding, but talking about it as if it is happening soon might hint that your partner wants to walk down the aisle with you. However, it can be a red flag if you feel like you are just a commodity to help your partner reach their marriage goal. When this happens, eager partners are often more interested in the idea of marriage than in you. They Want You to Meet the Family. Being introduced to an entire family early in a relationship can often be awkward and uncomfortable, depending on the situation. It can often create a lot of pressure at the outset of the relationship, and many people may take it as a sign that the person is expecting a long-term commitment. "If they are serious about you as a life partner, they likely will introduce you to the important people in their life – including their family and friends – as a sign that they want to integrate you into their life in a meaningful way and to make sure you are compatible with their friend and family groups," adds Romanoff. In many cases, you may still be getting to know one another and have no idea where your relationship is headed. Getting family members involved makes it difficult for you to relax and take things slow. If you express your reluctance to meet the parents and your partner gets upset, this may be a red flag that your partner wants things to move quickly. It's best to have an honest conversation about your goals and expectations. What to Do If Your Partner Wants to Get Married. If the person you are dating exhibits any of the above signs, it's likely that they want to get married quickly. However, marriage is not something you want to rush into no matter how much you might like the other person. Your partner should be just as discriminant as you are about making a lifelong commitment. Taking your time when you first meet someone is important. The dating relationship is the perfect time to learn all you can about someone. If you suspect your partner is eager to get married, be upfront about your goals to avoid too many hurt feelings or accusations down the road. Ask About Your Partner's Future Goals.
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