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When teenage girls share stories about "dating" much older men, there's often a common thread: they felt they were exceptional — uniquely mature, specially chosen, or deeply understood by these adult men. It's only with the hindsight of adulthood that many now recognize these "relationships" for what they truly were: predatory situations where grown men exploited the vulnerability and inexperience of teenage girls. These dynamics persist, in part, because society has long framed romantic attention from older men as flattering rather than alarming — especially for girls still forming their identities.

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It's a harmful narrative, and one we need to keep challenging. After we published previous stories from the BuzzFeed Community, even more women reached out to share their own experiences — often for the first time. Several expressed relief in realizing they weren’t alone, and reflected on how long it can take to fully process what happened. Below are 25 deeply personal stories about how older men groom, manipulate, and take advantage of teenage girls — and the lasting impact those experiences can leave behind: Warning: These stories include mention of sexual assault and abuse. 1. "There was a guy who hung out outside of my old ALL-GIRLS high school (he was 23 years old). When I first started high school, there was a rumor going around that he dates all the 'hot girls.' Being really young, and stupid, and insecure, I was extremely flattered when he wanted to date me. It didn't work out because I wouldn't have sex with him, so he moved on to the next one. and the next one. and the next one." Littleny / Getty Images/iStockphoto. 2. "I was sexting and sent a picture of myself in a bra to an older man. As a child from a dysfunctional home, the attention was exciting and addicting, and I felt so 'mature.' At 16, I ended up dating a 19-year-old — questionable maybe, but I'm grateful that I didn't seek out a deeper relationship with a much, much older man." "It terrifies me for the young girls who are growing up in a more digital-based era than what I was in. With Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, and everybody having a cellphone now, it makes it so much easier to have 'secret relationships' like I did." 3. "I was 18, a freshman in college, and he was 36. I thought I was so cool for having an older boyfriend. What I realize now, at 34, is that I wasn’t cool, he was just creepy. He would introduce me to his friends as his 18-year-old girlfriend. Every time, he would mention my age." Nico_blue / Getty Images/iStockphoto. "Neither he nor any of his friends had anything in common with me. I felt so insecure because they were actual adults, and I wasn’t even old enough to go to a bar." 4. "I was 16, and a friend of my mom's was 29. He stalked me all over the place, and I thought he was creepy AF, but my parents kept saying how much of a nice guy he was and that I should give him a chance. One date was enough." 5. "When I was 17, I met a man who was 30. He quickly gained my trust and pushed himself into my life as the one I should turn to for everything and the only one who really understood me. Whilst we were 'friends,' he would list the reasons why anyone my own age was too immature for me to date and how they couldn't give me the freedom and responsibility I apparently needed. To his friends, I was some joke prize. They'd clap him on the back for having a really young girlfriend. He soon got me pregnant and stuck in a toxic and abusive relationship. He then played on my age as to why I didn't understand what real relationships were like. He made me think I couldn't leave him because if I did, it proved that I was the child he thought I was, who couldn't handle an adult relationship." "He cut me off from family and friends. Again, he'd use their immaturity as a reason to get rid of them — despite him being just as, if not more, immature. He would apologize after being abusive, prey on my emotions, and pretend to cry only to carry on the abuse as soon as the dust had settled. I finally got out, but it took me until my 20s — when he was nearing 40 — to realize how much of a hold he had over me, how he had groomed me for this when I was too young to understand what I was getting into, and how bad this was." —Anonymous, United Kingdom. 6. "When I was 16, I bagged groceries at my neighborhood grocery store. Some dude came in and flirted with me. Eventually, he asked me out, so I told him I was 16. His response was, 'You’re really mature for your age, and 26 isn’t that much older than 16.' My teenage self (along with my then-underdeveloped frontal lobe) completely agreed with that statement. I got into a huge fight with my parents when they (rightfully) refused to let me date him." @jansmartino / Getty Images. "Clearly, they didn’t understand how mature I was, and slamming my bedroom door while blaring 'You Oughta Know' was the way to prove my maturity. At 34, I frequently remind my parents of this fact and thank them for not letting me date the creep!" 7. "When I was 16, I met a 22-year-old. We worked at the same place. When he first found out my age after a date, he said he needed to think about being with me, and I thought I convinced him I was mature enough. I don't think he was ever 'thinking about it.' My mom was OK with the relationship, and as an adult when I asked her, 'WTF?' She said, 'I thought it would be good for you.' His sister was a teacher and so was his mom, and they also didn't see anything wrong with it." "When we broke up, he threatened to kill himself." 8. "I was a junior in high school, and he was my 28-year-old boss at my first job. We got along right away. Little by little, we began texting more intimately and sexting. A close coworker of mine noticed our flirty ways at work and told me to stay away from him and that he was bad news. I didn’t want to get him in trouble, so I denied it. He ended up getting fired for something else work-related. After his firing, I found out he had done this previously to another girl I went to high school with, and also worked this job. That’s when I realized this was his thing, he preyed on high school girls." Alavinphoto / Getty Images. "He would know how to gain our trust in a new situation to make us feel comfortable and included. I still find myself thinking back on what a creep this guy was and how wrong this was for someone that much older to prey on their younger staff." 9. "I was 11 when I met him. He was 16 and a friend of my sister. He was a protective, big-brother type. Over time, we developed a friendship in our own right. By the time I was 15 and he was 20, it was no longer platonic. We were together for five years. It wasn't until my 30s that, with the help of my therapist, things became clear. He wasn't a big-brother type — he was grooming me. He wasn't my partner, he was a predator. I wasn't his equal, I was his victim and remained so for many years. Statutory rape is rape. It’s time we start acting like it." "At first, it was a secret, something just for us. We were so intense, we were so complicated. Other people wouldn't understand. He was my world. He made me feel loved and understood and that no one else could love or understand me the way he did. He was the best friend I would ever have, the greatest love I would ever know. He cheated on me the whole time. How dare I complain since he never promised me a normal relationship? So I stayed." 10. "When I was really young (probably 7-13), I thought I was really good 'friends' with a baseball umpire who worked in my area. He was probably 23. He was originally my camp counselor when I was around 7. He would be the umpire for my softball games and my brothers' baseball games for years. Whenever I saw him, I would run up on the field, and he would pick me up and swing me around. He would always make me feel like the most special girl, and I was crushing hard. My parents knew who he was as he was very involved in the community and knew he and I were 'friends.' They did not think anything was wrong with it, as he was a staple in the community. When I was 13, it was in the newspaper that he was in a relationship with a 16-year-old girl, and he was arrested for statutory rape." Ca2hill / Getty Images. "It's just crazy because looking back, he was grooming me for the same thing." 11. "I was 15 and fond of my high school teacher, who was 45 at the time. I told him I really liked the way he taught his class.

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